Perfectly Imperfect.

     I know that my last post may have seemed controversial; like my husband and I don't have a great relationship, and that our home life may be lacking. Nothing could be farther from the truth! The BEAST and I have a great relationship, and we both love all of our children. There is nothing to worry about there! We do disagree about parenting A LOT;  Just because we don't agree 100% on everything doesn't mean that our relationship is a trainwreck, it means that we are human.
     Things happen in our lives that shape the people that we are. I grew up with 2 very hardworking, independent, proud people, as did my husband. That's where the similarities end. My parents were very strict, whereas the BEAST's were not. I tend to be more rigid with the rules for the children, where he is more likely to bend. Sometimes I'm right, and sometimes he is. Parenting isn't an exact science, there is no handbook to tell you if you are doing it right or not. It can be extremely frustrating when you have been working for weeks on something with one of your children, and in one weekend the other parent lets it go completely off-grid.  Communication may be the problem, but the main answer to it is that we are all human. We need to be somewhat forgiving of one another. Frustrations mount when things like this happen; and you can attribute it to whatever you want; but it all boils down to the fact that we all make mistakes, no one is perfect. God made us imperfect for a reason. We are tested, and how we respond speaks to the kind of person you are. Forgiveness and open-mindedness are my words of the day!

Putting it out there

     I know it's been a very long time since I was on here; but such is the life of a busy mom! I actually felt driven to come and blog today because of something that happened to me on social media yesterday. I had reposted a photo about respecting a parent's wishes when they say something about their kid; and not undermining their authority. I had tagged the BEAST in this; because he is a very lenient parent and lets the kids get away with more than I do, which, in turn, makes me the mommy monster. I actually had someone tell me that posting it on the BEAST's facebook page was disrespectful to him. Now, mind you, this person has never met my husband; has never met me in person, and knows nothing about how our family works. To give a bit of back story, the BEAST has been told for years that he needs to stop undermining me by me, his parents, his brothers, my mother, all of our friends...He knows that I have this issue. That being said, I'm trying to figure out how it was disrespectful to him. All I can answer is: it's not, it's disrespectful to ME to ignore it.
     I know some of you are shaking your heads, but have you ever had your child go to preschool and announce to everyone there "I don't have a mom"? Because I have. Because I am the one who makes him bathe every night, get regular haircuts, brush his teeth...I am the bad guy because I am the enforcer. It felt like having my heart ripped through my chest when THAT child made that remark to his preschool class; but what could I do? I stood there and smiled, while I died a little inside. But I'm disrespecting my husband by trying to address his errors in a different way, because at this point; I will do anything to make him see how much it hurts me. Talking to him doesn't work, he laughs it off and tells me that I am taking it too personally. Have any of you had other mothers look at you like you were a monster because your son screamed at the top of his lungs because he didn't want to hold your hand, but you were the only parent along and it was an unsafe area for him to be on his own? I have. Have you had your child cry because you were the one who came to pick him up and not his daddy? I have. So, before any of you pass your lofty, social-media judgement about me being disrespectful, please get the back story first. You have absolutely no idea what you're talking about; and if you still feel the same way after knowing all of this; I will actually consider your opinion. Until then, please, mind your own biscuts and life will be gravy!